Evaluating Your Relationship...

I participated in the Webinar. They listed 5 broad questions to check your relationship but for some reason, I can't copy any info from it. Here are two lists that I found that cover it though. There is some overlap but you can never know too much about this issue.

Am I Being Abused?

How is your relationship?

Does your partner:

• Embarrass you with put-downs?
• Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
• Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
• Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
• Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
• Make all of the decisions?
• Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
• Prevent you from working or attending school?
• Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?
• Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
• Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
• Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
• Force you to try and drop charges?
• Threaten to commit suicide?
• Threaten to kill you?

If you answered ‘yes’ to even one of these questions,
you may be in an abusive relationship.

Check Your Relationship

If you think you or someone you know might be in an abusive relationship, but aren't sure, answer the following questions:

1. Can you name at least five characteristics of your partner that you really admire and like?
2. Is your partner glad that you have other friends?
3. Does your partner ask for your opinion and respect it?
4. Do you consider your partner a friend?
5. Do you "act like yourself" when you are with your partner?
6. Does your partner check up on you or want you to say where you've been after you've been apart?
7. Have you ever seen your partner throw, hit, or break things when angry?
8. Does your partner ever pressure you for sex?
9. Does your partner ever put you down, either when you're alone or when you're out together?
10. Are you ever frightened by your partner's temper?
11. Do you ever find yourself apologizing for your partner's behavior?
12. Has your partner ever done or said anything to you that made you fear for your own safety, the safety of your child or a pet, or someone else's safety?

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